Saturday, March 30, 2013

E is for Erotomancy

E is for Erotomancy
Erotomancy - Sex Magic

According to Gnostic Teachings, "Sexual magic refers to an ancient science that has been known and protected by the purest, most spiritually advanced human beings, whose purpose and goal is the harnessing and perfection of our sexual forces. A more accurate translation of sexual magic would be "sexual priesthood."
Skye Alexander of Llewellyn, "Sex magic is a means to an end, a way to mobilize the amazing creative power of sexual energy to generate a desired result. Basically, you do sex magic for the same reasons you would do any other type of magic: to cause something you desire to happen. Your goal might be to promote healing or attract money or achieve spiritual enlightenment. When you add sexual energy, you increase the intensity of a magic spell. It’s like adding more octane to gasoline."

Misunderstandings
Anyone can participate in sex magic, no matter what magical practice you associate with. It is a misunderstanding that only tantric and high magic practitioners can participate in sex magic. Practitioners of low magic, Hoodoo, and Wicca as well as other practices can also benefit from sex magic.

Another misunderstanding is that you have to have a partner or even a group to practice sex magic. Erotomancy can be done solo through masturbation much like other forms of magic can also be done alone or with others.

Books I recommend
These are books on magic and sexuality I have used in my studies so far.


 I Love Female Orgasm
An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide by Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller
 Secrets of Sex Magic
(Also titled Secrets of the German/Western Sex Magicians)
A Practical Handbook for Men & Women by Frater U. D.
Goth Craft:
The Magickal Side of Dark Culture by Raven Digitalis









Nocturnal Witchcraft:
Magick After Dark by Konstantinos
Pagan Polyamory:
Becoming a Tribe of Hearts by Raven Kaldera


D is for Deviant

D is for Deviant
Deviant Title by Jason Lightner
I thought I would take a moment to list a few Famous Sexual and Magical Deviants


Marquis De Sade 

Marquis De Sade was a French aristocrat, revolutionary, and writer. He's most famous for bringing porn/sex to people in a time where showing off your ankles was slutty.
A great movie depicting the Marquis is Quills - warning, it is most definitely not for the faint of heart...the same goes for his writing.


Aleister Crowley 

Aleister Crowley was a British writer, prophet and magician. He was also the father of modern sex magic. To read more about Crowley, please read my A is for Aleiter Crowley post.


Paschal Beverly Randolph


Paschal Beverly Randolph was a free man of color born in the state of Virginia in 1825. Randolph is thought by some modern authors to have been the fore-runner who paved the way for the ceremonial sex-magic practiced by members of the Hermetic Order of the Golden Dawn, the Ordo Tempi Orientis, and related groups.

Anton Lavey

Anton Szandor LaVey (born Howard Stanton Levey; April 11, 1930 – October 29, 1997) was the founder of the Church of Satan as well as a writer, occultist, and musician. He and his followers wrote several essays and articles on neo-tantra, karezza, sex magic, and sex worship.

Helena Blavatsky

In 1875, Helena Petrovna Blavatsky established a research and publishing institute called the Theosophical Society, to form a nucleus of the Universal Brotherhood of Humanity, without distinction of race, creed, sex, caste or color. She participated in other secret societies and was a participant in sex magic rituals including tantra and kundalini yoga with a sexual intent.





C is for Chymical Marriage

C is for Chymical Marriage
Chymical Marriage or Chymical Heirogamy
The concept is from Christian Rosencreutz (see. The Chymical Marriage of Christian Rosencreutz, 1495)
The Chymical Wedding is often described as the third of the original manifestos of the mysterious "Fraternity of the Rose Cross" (Rosicrucians). It is an allegoric romance (story) divided into Seven Days, or Seven Journeys, like Genesis, and tells us about the way Christian Rosenkreuz was invited to go to a wonderful castle full of miracles, in order to assist the Chymical Wedding of the king and the queen, that is, the husband and the bride. The invitation to the royal wedding includes the Monas Hieroglyphica associated with John Dee.

"Much of the alchemical literature of Europe now appears to be a coded tradition of drug-and-sex programming.....This code is especially notable in The Chemical Marriage of Christian Rosycross (1615), which forms the visible link between traditional alchemy and modern Rosicrucianism. The mystical rose and cross from which the Rosicrurians take their name are, in fact, no more or less than the vagina and the penis, respectively...(For the curious, here is the rest of the traditional symbolism, as given by Louis T. Culling in his Manual of Sex Magich Cucurbit—the vagina; retort—the same, during copulation; eagle—the vagina, or the female mouth, depending on the context; lion—the penis; transmutation—the sexual "peak experience"; elixer of life—the semen; quintessence—the semen as transmuted by ritual and ecstasy.)" ----Sex and Drugs by Robert Anton Wilson p66

According to Frater U.D. the Chymical Marriage is the body of Western Sex Magic (even though, as U.D. states, there is only a vague, allegorical mention of sex mysticism in the work).

In his book, Secrets of Sex Magic, Frater U.D. offers 2 rituals of Chymical Marriage, one for couples and one solo or inner marriage.
photo by Narn

In both rituals, the Chymical Marriage is a distinct combining of the Solar and Lunar, Masculine and Feminine, Yin and Yang energies between the couple or in the body of the magician. This act is also seen in the Wiccan Great Rite, in face, U.D.'s couple ritual even resembles the Great Rite in the action of inserting the God's athame into the Goddess's chalice and combining the solar and lunar energies therein.

Friday, March 29, 2013

B is for Babalon

B is for Babalon

Their eyes on my body become 
hands on my flesh. 
Grabbing, panting, 
hungry for more than simple release. 
Their body speaks to my body 
desperate longing 
starvation 
alienation 
shame, fear, hate. 

My body speaks back, 
fulfillment, abundance 
connection 
acceptance 
lovelustdesirefire 
Yes yes honey, you are sick and twisted and broken and wrong 
  and oh boy do you make me hot 
Come, share some of that pain with me. 
Come on. 
Come in. 
Come for me. 

And they do.

~ a segment from 'Whore' A poem for Babylon, by Raven's Boy

Wikipedia explains Babalon (not to be confused with Babylon, the city):
Babalon (also known as The Scarlet Woman, The Great Mother or The Mother of Abominations) is a goddess found in the mystical system of Thelema, which was established in 1904 with English author and occultist Aleister Crowley's writing of The Book of the Law. In her most abstract form, she represents the female sexual impulse and the liberated woman; although she can also be identified with Mother Earth, in her most fertile sense. At the same time, Crowley believed that Babalon had an earthly aspect in the form of a spiritual office, which could be filled by actual women—usually as a counterpart to his own identification as "To Mega Therion" (The Great Beast)—whose duty was then to help manifest the energies of the current Aeon of Horus.

Her consort is Chaos, the "Father of Life" and the male form of the Creative Principle. Babalon is often described as being girt with a sword and riding the Beast. She is often referred to as a sacred whore, and her primary symbol is the Chalice or Graal.
As Crowley wrote in his The Book of Thoth, "she rides astride the Beast; in her left hand she holds the reins, representing the passion which unites them. In her right she holds aloft the cup, the Holy Grail aflame with love and death. In this cup are mingled the elements of the sacrament of the Aeon".

The following correspondences are from Thelemepedia, which connect Babalon with Binah:

Qabalistic Attributions
Key Scale: 3
Name: Binah (Understanding)
Astrology: Saturn

Godforms
Thelemic: Babalon
Egyptian (selection): Maut, Isis, Nephthys
Egyptian (practical): Nephthys
Hindu: Bhavani (all forms of Sakti), Prana (as Force), Yoni
Scandinavian: Frigga
Greek: Cybele, Demeter, Rhea, Heré, [Psyché, Kronos]
Roman: Juno, Cybele, Hecate
Christian: The Virgin Mary

Colors
King Scale: Crimson
Queen Scale: Black
Emperor Scale: Dark brown
Empress Scale: Grey flecked pink

Material Correspondences
Animals: Woman [Bee]
Plant: Cypress, Opium Poppy [Lotus, Lily, Ivy]
Precious Stone: Star Sapphire, Pearl
Perfume: Myrrh, Civet
Vegetable Drug: Belladonna, Soma
Mineral Drug: Silver
Alchemical Metal: Iron

Magick & Mysticism
Element: Root of Water
Magical Weapons: Yoni, the Outer Robe of Concealment [The Cup, the Shining Star] (#)
Chakra: Visuddhi (Larynx)
Forty Buddhist Meditations: Compassion
Magical Power: The Vision of Sorrow [Vision of Wonder]
System of Taoism: Kwan-se-on, The Yin and Khwan

An amazing article about Babalon and the Thelemic - Pagan connection was written by Ankh af na Khonsu:
Babalon, Scarlet Women and the White Goddess
I had used Babalon’s symbol of the seven pointed star of even points inscribed with name באבאלענ as a portal to her astral plane and the passage quoted above was only a small portion of my communication with her. The vision made certain prognostications about my progress on the magical path that later came to fruition and it was for these results that I had primarily recalled this particular operation, until the conversation mentioned above.

The feminine principal that is revered in both Thelema and by witches is the cycle of the feminine lifespan from the virginal Artemis, through the potently fertile Mother Goddesses and finally the crones that mark the approach of the dark moon and the potential for rebirth. This cycle is also replicated in the four feminine forms that are represented in the Thelemite feminine spiritual hierarchy as Nu is purely feminine and precedes the appearance of the male principal of Hadit which is the first emanation from the Ain Soph Aur.

Miscellaneous

Babalon Rising Festival 2013 - speakers this year include Donald M. Kraig, David Campbell, Frater Usul, Mgdlyn M.

A is for Aleister Crowley

A is for Aleister Crowley
Aleister Crowley (Oct. 12, 1875–Dec. 1, 1947)
An English occultist, ceremonial magician and author, who was responsible for founding the religious philosophy of Thelema.
As a young man he became a member of the esoteric Hermetic Order of the Golden Dawn. He would go on to found his own occult society, the A∴A∴ and eventually rose to become a leader of Ordo Templi Orientis (O.T.O.), before founding a religious commune in Cefalù known as the Abbey of Thelema, which he led from 1920 until 1923. After abandoning the Abbey, Crowley returned to Britain, where he continued to promote Thelema until his death.
Crowley was also bisexual, a recreational drug experimenter and a social critic. His writings on sex magic paved the way for many magicians of the art after him. Crowley wrote extensively on the topic of sex magick. Some of these works were published and made available to the general public, others were secret and could only be obtained by initiates of Ordo Templi Orientis.

Despite being denounced in the popular press of the day as "the wickedest man in the world," Crowley has remained an influential figure and is widely thought of as the most influential occultist of all time.


Timeline of Crowley's Metaphysical Experiences and Activities
Articles taken from Encyclopedia Thelema

1896 - December 31: First mystical experience on a visit to Stockholm. He writes: I was awakened to the knowledge that I possessed a magical means of becoming conscious of and satisfying a part of my nature which had up to that moment concealed itself from me. It was an experience of horror and pain, combined with a certain ghostly terror, yet at the same time it was the key to the purest and holiest spiritual ecstasy that exists. At the time, I was not aware of the supreme importance of the matter. It seemed to me little more than a development of certain magical processes with which I was already familiar, it was an isolated experience, not repeated until exactly twelve months later, to the minute.
1897 -  Begins reading alchemical and mystical works and books on magic.
1898 - is introduced to the Hermetic Order of the Golden Dawn. November 18: Pays 10 Shillings to be initiated into the Hermetic Order of the Golden Dawn
1900 - Obtained 33* (33rd and last degree of Scottish Rite Freemasonry) in Mexico City.
1903 - June 11: After having moved his bed into the Temple constructed for the Abramelin Operation he was "afflicted by dreams and visions of the most appalling Abramelin devils...."
1904 - March 16: Performs the Preliminary Invocation of The Goetia in a futile attempt to amuse Rose with the sylphs. She could not see them. Instead, Rose, in a strange state of mind, began repeating, "They are waiting for you." March 20: Invocation of Horus with "startling" success. He was told that, "The Equinox of the Gods had come" and that he was to formulate a link between the solar-spiritual force of the new epoch and mankind.
1907 - Records being able to do automatic writing at will
1910 - May 9: Evocation of Bartzabel
1912 - June: Is Communicated the techniques of sex magick and the Royal Art of the 9* O.T.O.
1914 - the more specific diary of sex magical workings is started this year, entitled "Rex de Arte Regia." This record was kept until 1918.
1939 - January 2nd - has lunch with Lady Frieda Harris, the artist of his Thoth Tarot deck. January 5th recorded a late night sex magick operation
1941 - December 14: Writes a letter to Lady Frieda Harris from 14 Lassell Gardens, Maidenhead. AC is describing tarot card attributions to her- in particular the Prince cards which she was currently working on. He also discusses the Yi King and its magickal forces stating, ""It is at least not impossible that there should be intelligences greater and subtler than our minds (these should control blind forces as our minds do our muscles) ... The best prospect of human progress is to discover, and communicate with, these intelligences...it is the particular task of the magician to accomplish this."
1942 - July 2: Writes a letter to Lady Frieda Harris while she was undertaking a Great Magical Retirement and he was unhappy with recent behavior. He writes, "When you formulate an aspiration to the G[reat] W[ork] you are placed under observation; and, if chosen as a likely candidate, come automatically under discipline. Rule No 1 is that any person, thing, or idea that you allow to come before the G.: W.: is removed without anaesthetics ...... Now the whole conception of "sacrifice" is foreign to the system of Thelema. ..."
1947 - May 1: Meets Gerald Gardner for the first time
December 1: Crowley dies in Hastings at 11.00am of myocardial degeneration and chronic bronchitis.
December 5: Funeral service and cremation - The Brighton Council afterwards delivered a protest in regards to the contents of the Last Ritual: “We shall take all necessary steps to prevent such an incident occurring again”.


His Literary Work

The following list encompasses both Libri and other works, including those compiled or edited after Crowley's death by others.
777 and Other Qabalistic Writings of Aleister Crowley : Including Gematria & Sepher Sephiroth. (1982).
Aha! : Being Liber CCXLII. (1996).
Aleister Crowley and the Practice of the Magical Diary. (2006).
Amrita : Essays in Magical Rejuvenation. (1990).
"The Blue Equinox" (Equinox III:1). (1992).
The Book of the Law (Technically called Liber AL vel Legis sub figura CCXX as delivered by XCIII = 418 to DCLXVI). (1997).
The Book of Lies, which is also falsely called Breaks. (1981).
The Book of Thoth : A Short Essay on the Tarot of the Egyptians (Equinox III:5). (1981).
Clouds without Water. (1909).
Collected Works of Aleister Crowley 1905-1907. (1974).
Commentaries on the Holy Books and Other Papers (Equinox IV:1). (1996).
The Confessions of Aleister Crowley : An Autohagiography. (1979).
Crowley on Christ. (1974).
Diary of a Drug Fiend. (1970).
Eight Lectures on Yoga (Equinox III:4). (1985).
Enochian World of Aleister Crowley : Enochian Sex Magick. (1991).
The Equinox (I:1-10). (2006).
The Equinox (III:10). (2001).
The Equinox of the Gods (Equinox III:3). (1992).
Gems from the Equinox. (1982).
The General Principles of Astrology (Liber DXXXVI). (2002).
The Goetia : The Lesser Key of Solomon the King. (1995).
The Heart of the Master. (1973).
The Holy Books of Thelema (Equinox III:9). (1983).
Khing Kang King : The Classic of Purity, Being Liber XXI. (1980).
Konx Om Pax : Essays in Light. (1990).
The Law is for All : The Authorized Popular Commentary of Liber AL vel Legis sub figura CCXX, The Book of the Law. (1996).
Liber Aleph vel CXI : The Book of Wisdom or Folly (Equinox III:6). (1991).
Little Essays Toward Truth. (1991).
The Magical Diaries of Aleister Crowley : Tunisia 1923. (1996).
The Magical Record of the Beast 666: The Diaries of Aleister Crowley, 1914-1920. (1972).
Magick : Liber ABA, Book Four, Parts I-IV. (1997).
Magick Without Tears. (1982).
Moonchild. (1972).
The Qabalah of Aleister Crowley : Three Texts. (1973).
The Revival of Magick and Other Essays. (1998).
Rites of Eleusis: As Performed at Caxton Hall. (1990).
The Scrutinies of Simon Iff. (1987).
Shih Yi: A critical and mnemonic paraphrase of the Yi King by Ko Yuen (Equinox III:8). (1971).
The Stratagem and other Stories. (1929)
Tannhäuser : A Story of All Time. (1974).
The Tao Teh King : A New Translation (Equinox III:8). (1976).
The Vision & the Voice : With Commentary and Other Papers (Equinox IV:II). (1998).
The World’s Tragedy. (1985).

Pagan Blog Project

Hello all,
Since this is a new blog, I am a little behind on the Pagan Blog Project.

What is The Pagan Blog Project? (The Short Answer)
This project is a way to spend a full year dedicating time each week very specifically to studying, reflecting, and sharing your spiritual and magical path. The project consists of a single blog post each week posted on your blog each Friday for the year of 2012 that will involve a topic that relates to Paganism, Witchcraft, magick, spirituality, and so on. You can use your posts to share your views on a topic, to talk about your own personal experiences, or to act as a catalyst to research a subject that you may not know much about and then share what you learn and how you feel about that. Each week there is a specific prompt for you to work with in writing your post, a prompt that will focus on a letter of the alphabet each week providing you a framework for your writing as well as a common thread for all participants to share in.


Great, I love it! How do I sign up?
Click on the 2013 Pagan Bloggers tab to list your blog for the Project.  Follow the simple instructions in the link generator to add yourself to the Project.
Join the Forums.  Introduce yourself and your blog to everyone in the group.
Grab one of the buttons or banners and post it to your blog!
Right click and select “Save As” to save the picture to your computer. Then upload it to your own website or blog and link it back to this page (http://www.paganblogproject.com).
Tag your posts! When you post your weekly post as part of the Pagan Blog Project, be sure to tag it as “Pagan Blog Project”. If you share your posts on Twitter be sure to use the hashtag #PaganBlogProject.



The following are topics I will be playing catch-up on:

A is for Aleister Crowley

B is for Babalon
(I'm cheating a little on this one and taking the Pagan Blog Project post I did on my other blog, Hedge Wife and using it here)

C is for Chymecal Marriage

D is for Deviant

E is for Erotomancy

F is for Female Magicians

Safe Sex Magic: Myths and Reality

Myth 1: Protection spells prevent sexually transmitted infections.

Just because you cast a magic circle, create a sacred space, or bless your sexy bits doesn't mean that you can forgo physical protection!

If you are having lesbian or female on female sex, protection means dental dams, latex gloves and condoms for toys. The condom needs to be switched out if the toy is shared between the girls.

Latex gloves need to be used by heterosexual and gay couples as well. Gloves keep any minor cuts in the fingers and hands from getting infected or from infecting their partner.

Gloves also smooth out fingers and keep any rough skin, torn cuticles, and nails from tearing the soft flesh of the vagina or anus.





Myth 2: Contraception Magic is all I need to prevent pregnancy.

Unless you have undergone a medical procedure to prevent pregnancy (tubes tied, hysterectomy, vasectomy), are in an exclusively same-sex relationship, or are practicing solo-sex magic (masturbation) and are otherwise celibate...there is no guarantee that you will not get pregnant or get your partner pregnant.
You can however up your chances of pregnancy prevention by using contraceptives.

Condoms are not a sure thing but they certainly decrease the chances of conception by an average 97%.
If you are a guy having sex with multiple partners, be sure to change your condom between partners to prevent transferring an STI from one partner to the next. The same goes for changing condoms if you are going form anal sex to vagina to prevent transfer of bacteria.

Other contraceptives include spermicides, diaphrams, and chemical contraceptive in various forms including pills, shots, IUDs, and the new Nuva Ring.

A natural form of contraceptive is watching fertility phases in the woman. This requires the woman to be more in-tune with her body and be aware of her period and ovulation and its regular cycle.

***I do not endorse any particular form of contraceptive over another. Please discuss contraceptives with your medical professional. This information is for educational and discussion purposed only.

Myth 3: As long as the sex is safe and magic is the focus, I don't have to worry about my sex life or my partners and their boundaries.

Safe sex means emotional and mental safety as well as physical safety. Consent is a big part of this. Consent to have sex, consent to sexual practices, and consent to spiritual practices related to sex.

To practice safe sex emotionally, make sure your partners are aware of your practices. This includes if you have multiple partners - making sure everyone knows of everyone else.
Also, make sure your partners know you are performing sex magic. They are an important part of the magic and even if they are not actively part of the energy on a spiritual level, they have the right to know what is going on in the bedroom. Also, spiritual practices benefit form added energy of others - so you can only benefit from your partner(s) knowing what you are doing.

More Information

I love this article about safe sex in a group mentality - Safer Threesomes

What is safe sex, how to have safe sex if you are a woman having sex with other women, and why it is important to practice safe sex among other women - Lesbian, Bisexual Women and Safe Sex

The Innocence of Sex Magick does a great job of discussing the emotions around sex magic and taking care of yourself and your partner emotionally.

Thursday, March 28, 2013

The 8-Fold Path, Sex Magic & BDSM


 A Page out of the Erotomantic's Book of Shadows...

The Eight Fold Path of the Gardnerian Tradition

  1. Meditation or Concentration
  2. Chants, Spells, Invocations
  3. Projection of the Astral Self or Trance
  4. Incense, Drugs, Wine, etc
  5. Dancing
  6. Blood Control - use of cords
  7. The Scourge
  8. The Great Rite


Raven Digitalis in Goth Craft says of the 8-fold path,
Gerald Gardner and his associates understood ‘sex, drugs, and rock n’ roll’ to be spiritual gateways – codes of ascension – and applied this knowledge to early Wiccan teachings.”
The Eight-fold Path is also called
“Eight Paths to Reach the Center,”
the Center being the Higher Self or connection with the Divine through the Self. Digitalis goes on to explain that there are five unmentioned things needed in the Path and these are “intention, preparation, invocation, consecration, and purification.”
These unmentioned points can be explained as deciding to perform an act such as a sex magic ritual for healing, and preparation by creating a sacred space, calling quarters and any deities desired, and cleansing and consecrating any tools (i.e. floggers, candles, massage oil).

In the Gardner Book of Shadows, the use of the 8-Fold Way is vaguely explained with a few cautions. In the end, however, it is left up to the initiate to learn these ways from others in the coven or through their own experimentation and pursuit of these mysteries.

The First step on the Path – Meditation

“This in practice means forming a mental image of what is desired, and forcing yourself to see that it is fulfilled, with the fierce belief and knowledge that it can and will be fulfilled, and that you will go on willing till you force it to be fulfilled. Called for short, Intent.”
This is a pretty basic definition of what Meditation meant to Gardner. In sex magic and BDSM, meditation can also be put into terms of preparation. This is the act of turning inward to prepare yourself for what is to come – be it a sexual rite to bring abundance into your home or your first time being whipped with a dragon tongue.
This is also a key step leading into #2…

The Second step on the Path – Astral Projection and Trance

Instead of Trance, in the subject of BDSM, I’d like to use the word Head Space.
We’ve all heard of SubSpace, DomSpace, even Littles-space. This is when the submissive, Dominant, or little is in the mindset in which they can truly release themselves to the role they are in.
The Submissive Guide has a fantastic article on sub-space: Sub Space: The Ultimate Frontier

The Third step on the Path – Chants, Spells, Invocation.

This can be anything from mood music to a mantra.
One of the best uses of invocations I’ve ever read was on FetLife in which the submissive was used as a vessel and she and her Master invoked their patron goddess into her through meditation and through ceremonial whipping to bring her into a spiritual frenzy of passion and sexuality. It was a beautiful ceremony.

The following is from PaganBDSM site, author was not posted and could be used as a chant or mantra before sex or bondage magic:

Prayer for a Slave
I offer myself to your will,
To better serve your needs.
I offer myself to be your tool,
For my path is one of usefulness.
I offer myself to be used,
For to be used is to be valued.
I offer myself to be honed
To give me a finer edge.
I offer myself to be changed, 
That I may become a vessel,
A manifestation of your will.


The Fourth step on the Path – incense, Drugs, Wine, etc.

According to the Gardnerian Book of Shadows:

“Whatever is used to release the Spirit. (Note. One must be very careful about this. Incense is usually harmless, but you must be careful. If it has bad aftereffects, reduce the amount used, or the duration of the time it is inhaled. Drugs are very dangerous if taken to excess, but it must be remembered that there are drugs that are absolutely harmless, though people talk of them with bated breath, but Hemp is especially dangerous, because it unlocks the inner eye swiftly an d easily, so one is tempted to use it more and more. If it is used at all, it must be with the strictest precautions, to see that the person who uses it has no control over the supply. This should be doled out by some responsible person, and the supply strictly limited.)”

In BDSM, the use of alcohol and recreational drugs (even those used for spiritual purposes) is usually frowned upon and prohibited in a public setting such as a club, dungeon, or play party. This falls under the association with SSC – Safe Sane and Consensual. It is understood that someone under the influence of drugs and alcohol is unable to safely consent to what is about to happen to them in a BDSM scene. Also, alcohol and drugs that cause thinning of the blood can cause more bruising or even bleeding than would normally be considered safe.

That being said, the ritualistic used of drugs has a long history. Ayahuasca and peyote (Lophophora williamsii) as well as psilocybin mushrooms all have a history of magical use in shamanic and magical practice. Alcohol also has a magical history from wine to mead to ale used in ceremonial rite.

Digitalis explains the use of drugs and alcohol in Goth Craft as such:

“Alcohol and other natural drugs do not exist just to ‘fuck you up.’ Everything is designed with a purpose, and each substance can serve as a conduit to channel spiritual energies and open gateways of perception in the user…Some groups of Witches and spiritualists gather to use certain drugs other than marijuana for specific spiritual purposes. Reasons include vision quests, astral voyages, energetic healing, and extreme divination, to name a few.” However, even he has a few sentences of caution, “All participants in group circles must be completely honest about their current states of being with the other members involved. This includes being under the influence of a substance, even if the magickal procedure at hand is only celebratory in nature…Certainly, if a ceremony is centered on the use of a particular drug for spiritual purposes, then all participants must be aware of the other members; states of being, including their limits, before using and their states of being during the high…What I’m saying is, be smart about what you do. Be cautious and aware of what you put into your body and how it affects the whole of your person.”

Of course, for those who do not wish to participate in the recreational and spiritual use of drugs and/or alcohol, incense can be used to influence meditation and trance. As many who have used it know, incense sets the mood just as much as a romantic bottle of red wine. Scents like patchouli and sandalwood are fantastic to set the mood for a bedroom scene as well as a sacred space for sexual rites.

The Fifth step on the Path is the Dance and Kindred Practices

The Dance in the paths of sex magic can be taken literally with an act of sensual dance – think Strip-tease or even Belly Dance. Sensual dance, much like ritualistic dance, raises energy. If you’ve ever been to a strip club and felt the energy of the room you can almost tangibly feel the ache of the men and women there watching. This is similar to the energy that can be raised in a ritual setting for sex magic.
This could also loosely refer to the dance a submissive does as she is bound to a rack and squirms beneath the lashes of a flogger.

The Sixth step on the Path is Blood Control, Breath Control, and Kindred Practices

The use of blood control with cords and breath control in BDSM is a practice surrounded by a lot of excitement and taboo.
Just as it is used with great care to the delicacies of the human form in pagan ritual, so too should great care be taken when using blood control and breath control in sexual practice.
Jay Wiseman, author of SM 101: A Realistic Introduction wrote a fantastic essay on safety in breath control play HERE called The Medical Realities of Breath Control Play.

Some traditions believe that the 6th step is control over the body in general - everything from bodily fluids, bodily reactions, to controlling dreams and developing psychic powers. This can be taken a step further in the realm of BDSM in that a submissive could take it as controlling the self during a scene - not allowing the pain of the moment to control the body but rather a mind over matter situation.

The Seventh step on the Path is the Scourge

Anyone who has participated in impact play during a BDSM scene can remember the feel of the scourge. In this case the scourge can be an O-whip, a flogger, or a cat-o-nine. Being scourged with one of these tools can bring blood to the skin, give a rush of endorphins, and send the recipient into sub-space.

Digitalis defines the scourge in its own section in Goth Craft:

“The Witches’ scourge is quite a bit milder than the early Christian versions and is quite ‘fluffy’ compared to the ancient Roman scourge. Instead of being made of metal and knotted with hooks, rocks, and bones, it usually is now in the form of a relatively soft cat-of-nine-tails, and is not designed to tear flesh and punish heretics! The tails of the Witches; scourge can be made of leather, faux leather, or thick string. A number of knots can be tied in each string, each holding the energy of a different blessing the person being scourged should receive.
‘For modern Witches, scourging is also used as a tool to exorcise deamons, diseases, and malignancies from someone, and a quick cleansing smack of the scourge is a requirement to enter the sacred circle for some Witches…
‘In traditional initiation rituals, the scourge is used to induce a small amount of sharp, momentary pain to remind the initiate of the vulnerability of the physical body and to increase blood flow to strengthen a trance.”

The Eighth and final step on the Past is the Great Rite

The Great Rite – here referring to the actual act of union. In the sacred circle this could simply be the symbolic act of the High Priest lowering the tip of the athame into the chalice held by the High Priestess. However, in regards to sex magic, this is this is the culminating sexual act. This could be an astral union between two people or a magical practitioner and an astral being such as a succubus. This could also refer to the act of masturbation by a solitary practitioner. Usually, though, it is an act between two or more people after raising energy with the previous practices.

Digitalis explained the Great Rite:

“Witches also traditionally perform the Great Rite, a ritual procedure in which the male practitioner (or person honing male energy) draws the God into himself and the female practitioner (or person honing female energy) invokes the Goddess. While in a fully drawn circle, the two unite the masculine and feminine currents, cultivating the energy of fertility, physically or mentally…To Pagans, sex is seen as a metaphor of divine union and the connection between the heavens and the earth.”

As for the concept of sex magic, Digitalis states, “ritual sex is often used either to heal the land and the earth or as a means of encouraging ‘inner’ fertility and personal growth…Sex magic should be performed between two consenting individuals of legal age. I strongly believe that both individuals making love should be aware if sexual magick is being performed…if one party is uninformed of energy work, it may as well be considered magickal sexual abuse.”

He goes on to say, “Sex magick is a very powerful force indeed. When two people come together in a physical bond, a certain essence is created due to the fusion of two energy patterns…When physical sensations increase during sex, spiritual gates open. During the time building up to climax, energy is woven between the two individuals and finally projected upward in a cone of power…Where this energy is directed is entirely up to the couple.”

Combinations and Short Cuts

The 5 unmentioned essentials and 8 Paths or Ways cannot always be combined in one rite. Meditation and dancing do not usually combine well (unless you are skilled in the ways of walking meditation), but forming the mental image and the dance may be well combined with Chants. Spells combined with scourging and blood or breath control, followed by the Great Rite or sex, form a splendid combination. Meditation, following scourging, combined with Chants or spells and drugs/incense/alcohol and dancing are also very Good. For short cuts concentration, Dancing, Blood or Breath Control, Scourging, and the Great Rite are excellent.

Merrily Met

Merry Meet and Hello,

I am Reverend December also known as Lady Phryxus.
I am a practicing witch, a Wiccan, an ordained minister, a healer, a reader, a wife, a polyamorist, a Switch in the BDSM subculture, and a seeker of knowledge.

I used to separate my spiritual journey from my BDSM practices until that felt too much like living with multiple personalities and far too stressful.
In the end, I decided to join them together!
Erotomancy, sex magic, is a passion of mine that I want to share with you, my readers.

This blog is an experiment of mine to see if combining my sexual and spiritual practices is something that will work out in my life and if there is actually an interest in hearing another voice on these subjects on the web.
On this blog you will see articles on sexuality and paganism, spells and rituals and references on sex magic, and pages from my Erotic Book of Shadows.

I hope that we can learn and grow together.

Merry Part and Blessed Be
The Erotomantic
Lady Phryxus